Blow-Jobs and "dirty" sex...

What does that word mean?... Don't they really suck?

One must first understand the "way it was" at the time, and the way people thought. (It is still the same today in some private Indian communities and a few "true" Mountain Man camps). It is not discussed much and still considered somewhat evil, but it does happen!

One thing different though, there is a major difference between being "blown" and being "sucked," the two sex acts should not be confused...

A blow job was actually only performed when a woman needed to "prepare" a man for sex... It was explained to me in this way: The "girls of old" faced the man while sitting on the bed or love couch and coated part of the sensitive area at the end of his dick by spitting on it. This was followed by a very fast blowing "whistle" type movement with her lips tight together. This caused the temperature to drop rather suddenly on the most sensitive part... resulting in the man being instantly ready, even if very drunk! The girl leaned back or turned around, flipped up her dress and petty coats, getting positioned quickly on the love chair/couch/bed, the act was completed in a matter of seconds... The climax was sudden and very little mess was produced when done this way, often not even enough lubrication to make the next guy think he was not the first one that night!

Remember, the majority of the men are not circumcised, the end of their dick is very sensitive when exposed... also not very clean or tasty "in the field," as they say! (This was a time before running water, most people could not really take a complete bath at all in the winter). Many women who had problems with "yeast" infections also did this to "prepare" the man before entering her, normally wiping the germ-fighting saliva off on a clean part of her petty coats. (This was actually not as much of a problem as they thought, only a belief at the time... the woman's vagina is naturally equipped with acids that can prevent infection from germs related to "pee" from him or her, she was more in danger of infection from the germs of the mouth or anus and did not know it at the time).

Many times the men were so sensitive in that area they came almost instantly on the petty coat while being roughly rubbed. This was normally not considered a "true completion" of the sex act, or what they had paid for. (A "poke" was always desired... the man wanted to feel himself come inside the deepest part of a woman, only then did he want a good cigar). The woman, on the other hand, needed money... she needed as much money as she could get, as fast as she could get it, before anything else bad happened to her. The majority of them received no enjoyment, regardless of all the moaning, and had only one goal in mind... to get this part of their life over with as soon as possible, without any lasting harm to their body. This was one "trick" that worked very well, the "blow-job" that caused the man to come in her clothes, some were very good at it and did it often! (Remember, the price was already paid, the madam had her cut, and the goal was to see another man with a smile on his face, saying only that he "would be back"... what had happened was only the business of the two who did it). This is what really happened... There would be some discussion about him making a mess on her only petty coat, followed by a declaration of how "strong and powerful such a man as he," along with some mention of how she longed to feel such a man inside of her. And then of course, the comment that although it would be very exciting, this was going to take some more time, and a tip was required... Smart girls could say all of this "with a mouthful," as the "suck" part of the process caused the man to think with his other head for a few minutes! The girls who were the best at this were the first to get rich, also the first to get married, the sucking may have ended shortly after that...

It was stated often that actually sucking on a man's dick was considered a very cruel and demeaning thing to do in those days. The woman was not meant for that, she was "for children," not for "screwing in the mouth"... this was a "puritan" time for ladies, even ladies of the evening! Before the civil war it was said a true "southern belle" would rather die than take a man in her mouth, after the war many did... Men on the winning side of that war did much joking about it, but very few actually did it to one that was still alive. In the early days of Deadwood it was the same, (much talk, very little action, just something naughty to talk about). I must compare it to "going to Mexico to see the donkey show"... Everybody jokes about it, many will pay all their money for a taxi ride to this show... but very few have actually seen it. And after you do finally see it you are disgusted, ashamed, and embarrassed, especially for the girl. (In the group I was with, all but one had been to war, all but one had seen many very cruel and unusual things... the only one who had not, immediately threw up at the time).

This oral sex act was also very dangerous, if "done in the wild" as they say. Can you just imagine doing it while riding in a wagon on a bumpy trail, good way to lose the use of it forever... And why do it anyway, men had nothing to prove, women were already considered lowly, it was "good to be king" and there were no time zones! (What time is it in Montana when the sheep get caught in the fence? Mountin' time... but it is always Mountain time in Montana). Jokes like that are typical of our day... Wyoming, where the men are men, the women are scarce, and the sheep are nervous! All joking aside, in the "bible-belt" of the Midwest many women feel oral sex by either party is more foolish and unnecessary than in places where it is more difficult to get a man, or keep him happy. This kind of sexual pleasure has more to do with the climax of the man, or the relaxing of that other head... And at times when this head is controlling the thinking of both parties it may be best to relieve it quickly so other thinking can happen! In such cases many women can actually receive some pleasure, or at least realize some enjoyment from the act. (It is when that climax becomes the center of attention and the most important thing that it becomes a real problem).

Today girls as young as 14 are getting their tongues pierced, and some brag about how much better they are at using it correctly. It is truly the "end days," surly something must be about to happened to end this time of perversion. People in a number of states in the Midwest say they would help tie a queer to a fence with barb wire and cut his nuts off, while joking about sex with their favorite animal...?

Also, in the "old days," we had no penicillin, no way to fight infection, odd manners of sex could kill you! Food was not clean and preserved, it was full of germs, so was your mouth after you ate it. (Read up on what happened after the dough-boys of the first world war introduced French kissing). So was the place where food comes out, ask any gay guy what his main concern is involving sex. Ask any Indian or mountain man about his lessons in the study of shit. (They are taught at an early age about what you do right after you do that duty... you study it to determine if you are healthy. You may poke at it for worms, or smell it to complete the examination... you may even call on an expert, but you do not touch it, you bury it real deep).

Everyone knew that in those days too, wicked men would try to slip it into the other hole just for that reason on "Southern Belles," just to remind them who won. (If it was not washed off before re-inserting, an infection was often the result). This is common sense, the earliest doctor book had a warning sentence to all women, "one must wipe from the front, going back, not from the back, going forward." For reasons not completely understood, the "pee" is not as much of a problem, it is used in face paint or makeup, and for cures, some people even drink it without concern!

Many ancient beliefs and religions have the majority of their rules concerned with "unclean foods" or the proper preparation of other foods, this is done to keep their numbers strong. To some, the act of eating is more private than having normal sex in front of strangers. To all good religions, the mouth is the biggest problem the body has, and it should always remain closed in public, (there is a lesson somewhere in that for me)...

To make a short story longer though, the mouth was not really designed to be used involving sex! (There is a reason many prostitutes do not allow kissing). The men of that day said it should always remain closed, and it was, for the most part, in the old west anyway...

And as far as that baloney about Calamity Jane offering blowjobs for a quarter... remember, a drink was a nickel, and that was her price! She had quite a mouth on her, and she used it to get drinks too... but not like it is re-enacted in Hollywood. (She was quite a kidder too, and she would tell you to get it out after you bought her the drink, she would bend down a little and blow on it, then ask you if that was as good for you as it was for her). At the time of the original gold rush year, the summer of Wild Bill especially, she was out-numbered about a hundred to one in Deadwood. Offering sex of any kind was starting something you could not finish, joking about it was much more fun in a crowded bar. It was reported to not really be that embarrassing to the new man it happened to either, just another "welcome to Deadwood" thing, it still happens... you wanna see da video?